Frequently Asked Questions

Frequently Asked Questions

What are your fees?

Please contact me for my current fees.

How do I choose a therapist?

The best way to choose a therapist is to talk with them on the phone, see if you get a positive feeling, and meet them in person. The most important part of the therapeutic relationship is the actual relationship. Because therapy can often include difficult topics, total comfort is not always the best marker for whether it's a good fit. At the same time, you want to feel warmth, some level of ease, and a general sense of rightness--as with most relationships this can take a little time. It's a good idea to have a few sessions and talk over any concerns with your therapist.

What do you mean by sexual health?

Sexual health encompasses many aspects of sexuality, but I like the World Health Organization's working definition: “Sexual health is a state of physical, emotional, mental and social well-being in relation to sexuality; it is not merely the absence of disease, dysfunction or infirmity. Sexual health requires a positive and respectful approach to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. For sexual health to be attained and maintained, the sexual rights of all persons must be respected, protected and fulfilled.”

One of the wonderful movements in the public conversation (at least some domains) about sexuality is a recognition of the right to pleasure as an essential part of sexual health.

What is a sex therapist?

A sex therapist is someone who is specifically trained to deal with a wide range of issues regarding sexuality. From my perspective, it's important to find someone who has gone through formal training in sex therapy and, ideally, is associated with AASECT (The American Association for Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists) or another reputable professional sex therapy organization.

Why Confluence?

Literally, a confluence is a flowing together of multiple streams into a larger body of water. Confluence therapy is meant to be evocative of my own path as a therapist and my approach to counseling: in my training there are streams of holistic nutrition, mindfulness approaches, transformational education, and rigorous academic training in psychotherapy and sexuality. It also acknowledges the important contribution of other healthcare professionals, whether that be complementary practitioners or physicians, to the care of any one individual, and that flow of communication is essential to quality care.